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This article is for all the parents who are damn strict to their sons/daughters (mostly daughters) when they have reach 17/18 (or poly year 1) pardon me for my english, as it’s damn shitty, yes i know..
The below mention are just opinions, every parents love their sons/daughters, i’m not criticizing anyone.
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One thing i don’t get it nowadays is, why parents tend to keep forcing their sons/daughters to study even after poly year 1. Like saying they must reach home at 6pm, and then study, even when it’s just starting of school.
I asked around, it seems like parents want to “control” them. For me, i believe that during primary school and secondary we need to be “control”, since we might play too much and forget about studies. But poly? Instead of forcing them to study, i believe they should guide them to find a reason to study.
Some parents are afraid of their daughters being in a relationship, and die die enforce a rule of no bf until the end of uni/poly. yes “DIE DIE” must follow or they will get “angry”. But have you ever wonder, after you say that, they won’t get a bf/gf?
For myself, my parents believe in taking own responsible for my own action. So if i wanna get into a relationship, i have to make sure my own school work isn’t affected and if it is, i’ll face the consequences myself, and not to blame anyone.
I failed my o lvl because of being rejected by a girl (ok i know it sounded stupid), i went ITE. I face the consequence and insult of many others, and letting my parents down. My parents did not dis-courage me or get really angry, they know I know that it’s my responsible. I decided to study harder. Scored a perfect GPA during ITE.
I head over to poly and get a gpa of 3.8 with diploma with merit.
Did my parents force me to study? No.
Did my parents force me to go home at 6pm everyday and study infront of them? No.
Did my parents force me not to have relationship so it won’t affect studies? No
They all believe in me and trust me, that i know what to do and won’t do something wrong.
So now parents and the daughters/sons that are reading, ask yourself:
“How much do you think your parents trust you?” or “How much do you think you trust you sons/daughters?”
Some say alot, some say a bit. Then think of a scenraio, where you show that trust to you sons/daughters.
For mine is my freedom of choice in anything i do. They know i won’t do anything wrong. I love them. Some might say they simply just ignore me. But when i broke up with my gf last year, i was really sad. But they supported me even when i neglected them when i was with her. Wanting to buy ipad and ps3 to cheer me up. I told them i dun want it, cause i already feel their care and concern, and it’s more than enough.
So, do you trust your sons/daughters?
Next, ask yourself, do you know how many Ex-bf/gf your sons/daughters have? My parents know how many my sis and i have, cause we always share it with them. Either for tips, or just to let them know. Because they trust us, and we know we can tell them all this.
Most parents won’t know how many ex-bf/gf their sons/daughters have. (or thought that they have 0). Cause, the reason for the sons/daughters to share isn’t there. They’ll be thinking “should i tell mum/dad that i have a bf/gf?” the answer will always be a no, cause, they are afraid of being scolded. So they “hide” it.
Being too strict will make your sons/daughters “fear” you. Afraid of telling you anything cause they don’t wanna get “scolded” by the parents. And thus they will start to hide things from you.
I always believe what my parents do is right. And yes they are awesome, i love them and i know they have confidence in me. They don’t keep asking “why u gonna do next time ar? can earn enough ma?” They know i can, they won’t question my choices. But sometime i’ll ask them for tips / help.
I’m 23 this year serving NS.
And this is just a small article, i would like to share. But of course feel free to counter what i say here. It’s just opinion, sharing is good. Of course i know some guys/girls need to be “control” cause they are too rebellious. So hope everyone will share their opinion.
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why so strict with your daughter, she’s young she need to enjoy..
u dun have to allow her to go out with me, but i hope u can let her go out with her friends on weekend
do you have any idea how happy she is during the freshmen orientation camp..
I just want her to enjoy
poly isn’t all about studying
i study and hang out, got a diploma with merit with a gpa of 3.8 and a placing in uni
I win quite a number of competition in 1st/2nd/3rd.
and i enjoy my poly life
isn’t it good
teenage like her age, shouldn’t she be enjoying before moving on to the working life
i’m not saying you’re wrong, but i think she needs more space
do u wanna restrict her until she cannot take it and break down
I love her, and thats why i care..
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dat comment…..
dear cod that comment
i had this on my page once
need it again
(Source: giifsdisney, via azycake)
Phobia of planning my own birthday party or outing still in me.
10+ years le siol.
10+ years ago i organize a birthday party, in the end only 1 turn up =.= like loser…
I always organize outing and other people birthday party but i guess i can’t do one for myself.
So anyone wan just hang out this coming sunday? just eat dinner with me i happy le lol.
and yup don’t remind me of my age
